



With all the charity knitting going on out there, along with a lack of funds for new projects, my hands and needles went digging deep into stash, sorting and pulling out all the worsted weight woolen yarns and casting on for first one hat, then another, and so on. It's been fun playing around with colors and it feels a little like making something out of nothing. There's probably enough stashed away for 15-20 more of these.
I was knitting the hat on the left, above, in the hospital hallway on Monday when my sister-in-law's doctor rushed in from appointments at his clinic several blocks away to check on her, one of four women in the small maternity ward there who gave birth to a child that day. As he whisked by while being briefed by a nurse he commented, "Nice hat. That is a hat, isn't it?" I didn't even realize who he was until my three year old nephew looked up from his playing and said, "Hi Dr. B----!" and into the room he slipped before I could even reply, amazed that he had the wherewithal and presence to even notice what I was up to.
Until Monday, I had been lucky enough to be present at four births, two of which were our own children, two of which were a good friend's youngest children, and all of which had happened outside of a hospital. I was thrilled to be asked to be there with my SIL and BIL and their son and was so curious to see how their hospital birth would differ or be similar to the others. She was present with us when both of our boys were born and he was there for E's birth. Now, they wanted us to be with them. Various events led to their decision to choose a hospital birth with a doctor this time around, part of which was the great "reviews" that we/they regularly hear about that particular hospital and doctor.
Five days past her due date, with all signs indicating that her body and the baby were very ready, they chose to induce. We met them at the hospital at 6:30 am and made ourselves at home in the hallway outside of their room. For the first few hours we all chatted, listened to music, and wandered around the hospital hallways, smiled at and made small talk with other people walking around with IV's in their arms and monitors on their bellies, speculating on how the day would go and, as my SIL said, it felt "like the calm before the storm."
The boys played on the floor, explored the hospital and it's two waiting rooms, and read books and magazines. I ran a couple of quick errands nearby and picked up baked goodies at the local coffee shop. We made and ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.
By noon, her labor was just beginning in earnest so soon the boys and I left the room and kept ourselves out of way just outside the door in the hallway while the assigned nurse (Even though all of them seemed wonderful, somehow they were lucky enough to be matched up perfectly with a particular one of the nurses on staff that day.), my BIL, and C helped my SIL (C's sister) through the contractions. The doctor made it back from his clinic, again, just in time for her to start pushing at almost 3:00 pm. That was when the three boys and I slipped into the room and watched as she gave birth to their son, without pain medication, 10 minutes later! It was one of the more intense and beautiful things I've seen and experienced and it was an honor to be there with them.
Everything good I had heard about that hospital and that doctor were proven true for me on that day. Not a single person had any trouble with three little boys sprawled out in the hallway playing all day, wandering around in their stocking feet, dropping bread crumbs here and there. Rather, they were welcomed. None of the staff were even aware up until the moment we came into the room that the three boys and myself would be in there when their brother/cousin was born and they were welcomed there as well. Afterwards, the doctor showed them the placenta and amniotic sac explaining to them that that was where the baby had lived and grown and how he had gotten his nourishment in the womb.
After Monday, I have the distinct feeling that giving birth in a hospital seems almost like a social, even public, happening, with people coming and going in the hallways, trying to walk themselves into full on labor, while visitors came and went. This, even though our own children's births could practically be considered full blown parties, with 7 people (2 midwives, a doctor, a friend, my SIL, C and myself) at R's birth and 11 people (3 midwives, 2 friends, a friend's 2 month old son, my SIL and my (now) BIL, R, C, and myself) not to mention 2 more just upstairs at E's birth. I guess, counting everyone up, there were 11 people in the room on Monday when our nephew was born, as well.
I could go on and on, and have already, but I guess what I'm really trying to say here is that, in many ways, at least in this one case, I saw fewer differences than I would have expected (aside from the induction and monitors) between a hospital birth and the others that I've seen and experienced. It's all about the people, really. People who work in this field, whether doctor, midwife, or nurse, work VERY hard, take on alot of responsibility, and have the best interests of the woman, child, and family in mind. It takes an incredible amount of calm and confidence to do this kind of work, using caution, knowledge, and experience at every moment. I was really quite surprised at how personal and individual the experience seemed to be for each and every person that was there that day giving birth to their children.
The "public" aspect of it all seemed surreal to me at the time. Now that I've had time to process, I can see that it was a joyous atmosphere that was really only slightly "shared" with others and that was ultimately experienced only on a very personal level by each individual.
The people in this hospital were incredibly open-minded and open-hearted, I felt. I'm not sure if it would be possible to have a better birth experience in a hospital than I witnessed on Monday, at least not from my own perspective.
It's not that I didn't expect a positive experience. The birth of a child is good and beautiful, period, so I knew it would be one. I guess what I'm trying to say was that my presumptions were proven wrong, which often, it seems, proves to be a good thing.
Nearly seven years ago, C and I were in that same hospital, accompanied by our midwife and her assistant, having some tests done to check on the well-being of our child-to-be. We saw the same doctor that was with my SIL last Monday. Over the course of the last week of my own pregnancy our midwife was conferring with him daily over the phone. At the end of my appointment there with him, I felt my body staring to feel different. I suspected I might be going into labor. As it turned out, I was. Some people go to the hospital when they go into labor. I walked out the door. Choices. It is good to have choices so people can make the best ones for themselves.
As for choices, I think my SIL and BIL are certain now that they made the right choice to induce labor. They had a 11 pound, 1 ounce baby boy!
As for the hats I've been knitting, I wasn't quite sure where they were going to go. Local? Dulaan project? afghans for Afghans? Through some friends working in Afghanistan? Instead, I decided on something completely different. A friend of mine and her son are going to need money for legal help in dealing with the mother of her grandson who abducted him away to an out of state location a couple of weeks ago. I am hoping the hats will sell at one of the local holiday craft fairs this weekend and then I will donate the proceeds to help defray their costs. It isn't much, but it's something. If they don't sell, then I'll donate them directly to one of the above charities. The white background of the hat picture is snow, by the way.