...ours would rarely get to speak of a scene like the one here above.
As a homeschooling family with a home-based business and no real office to speak of, our dining table and kitchen counters, floors, or any other horizontal surface don't often look so spare and clean. Let's just say that we live HARD in our little house. Typically this table is covered, at least in part, in an assortment of meals, glasses, mugs, stacks of homeschooling books and projects, toys, markers, pencils, paper, books, knitting, and who knows what else.
Lately, rather than let the messes drive me crazy EVERY single hour of the day, instead I've been trying to take another look at them, not just live with them, but appreciate them, and document some of them. Still, today I nearly lost it over the mayhem.
Some of what, in the past couple of weeks alone, our dinner table (and kitchen counter) has seen:
Breakfasts, lunches, dinners, snacks, as well as coffee, tea, ice cream, pie, beer, and wine shared with both family and friends. Quilt squares traced and cut out. Science experiments. Pictures drawn and painted with markers, pens, pencils, crayons, paints, and even home-made walnut hull ink with feather quills. Piggy bank money counted. Knitting. Books read. 13 bean soup sorted. Sewing projects. Birthday cards made. School work. Tears shed over math problems (twice). Card games. Board games. Bread mixed and kneaded. Meals cooked. Yarn wound and weighed. Skyping with grandma. Bills paid. Maps studied. Knives sharpened. Lists made. Various craft projects started and sometimes completed. And more.
And, possibly most unusual of all, two whitetail deer have been butchered, cut, weighed, and wrapped right here on our dining table. A friend who had been a local butcher for eight years gave us a lesson in exchange for a chili dinner and beer. I've spared posting a picture of it directly here in the post. Instead, the picture is hidden, so if you're squeamish or just don't care to see or think about these kinds of things, DON'T CLICK HERE. Shocking for many, I'd guess, but for us, it's been educational, fascinating, and deeply connecting us to our food source. We've eaten all sorts of incredibly delicious meals already: liver dumplings, heart sandwiches, neck soup, and venison burgers on homemade buns. Truly of-the-earth foods.
And the bonus is that there is a lot of butcher paper leftover for future freezer paper stenciling! Maybe a cute bambi-ish deer stencil? ; ) None of this is taken so seriously that I don't get a perverse satisfaction from labelling all the packages of meat with a bright pink Sharpie pen.
Back to the topic: Sure, the picture-perfect ideals seen in magazines and online are pretty and inspiring to look at as long as I don't expect to really ever live quite like them. Even the pictures posted here are styled, cropping out the real messes.
The other day, the boys and I spent a couple of hours staightening things up before friends came over, and it felt so nice with the sun shining in the windows, and with a relatively presentable house. By that evening it looked again as if we'd never cleaned.
Sometimes I'll daydream of a life wherethe breakfast dishes are put in the dishwasher in the morning and then we all leave for the day to our respective jobs and school days, returning to eachother in the late afternoon, to a house where nothing has moved, not even an inch, all day long, where no new messes have been made in all those hours we were away.
Mostly, though, I just shake my head (and often cringe) and try to remember that "Houses are for living in, not for looking at." Does anybody happen to know where I might have gotten that from? I've been googling trying to figure it out. I'd thought it was a Frank Lloyd Wright quote. It could be that it's something I read one time, ironically, in a magazine article with pretty pictures of someone else's clean and styled home?
(The table runner, by the way, is something I'm trying out in hopes of it inspiring me to clear off the table completely, at least once every day or so. Tablecloths just don't work in our world. The runner was originally a scarf knit from heather grey and plant dyed Lamb's Pride Worsted, far back in the pre-blogging years. It was too short, wide, and scratchy as a scarf and so was eventually felted and only recently put into service on the table.)